The Ambush Effect: How Well-Meaning Advice Can Derail Your Future
Everyone seems to be an expert in at least two things: raising your kids and running your life. Let’s add a third: owning your business. People love to give advice—often without being asked. It’s just human nature.
Most people offer their opinions with the best of intentions. But that doesn’t make their advice valid. I once spoke to a man who gave up on buying a food franchise because his cousin had failed running an independent restaurant. His cousin’s experience had nothing to do with his own opportunity—different model, different business, different situation. Still, that single opinion crushed his dream. He was ambushed, and he didn’t even know it.
This happens all the time. People discover a franchise that excites them—something that finally seems like a real path to business ownership. But within a short time, that excitement fades. Why? They were ambushed—often by others, sometimes by themselves.
Sound silly? Think you’re too smart to fall for it? Don’t be so sure. Ambushes come in many forms—and from many directions. Here are the most common, and how to defend yourself:
THE SPOUSAL AMBUSH
The business seeker claims, 'I've talked it over with my spouse, and they said it’s my call.' It’s all good—until that first detailed conversation about the franchise. Then objections arise, concerns emerge, and what once looked promising now seems out of reach.
SOLUTION:
Business ownership is a family decision. Talk early and often. Share what you're learning. Attend meetings together when possible. The more informed both partners are, the smoother the path forward.
THE 'PASSION' AMBUSH
You may hear that you must be passionate about your product or service. But passion for the business itself is just as powerful. One successful franchisee I know runs a pet waste removal company. Passionate about scooping dog poop? Probably not. But passionate about building wealth and stability for his family? Absolutely.
SOLUTION:
Passion matters—but define it clearly. If you're passionate about owning a business, growing something valuable, or achieving independence, that's more than enough.
THE FRIEND/NEIGHBOR AMBUSH
Mention your plans, and unsolicited advice will likely follow—often from well-meaning individuals with little relevant experience. Despite their lack of expertise, their opinions can subtly influence your thinking. Dismissing them outright may feel rude, but failing to filter them critically can lead to poor decisions.
SOLUTION: Accept that advice will come—solicited or not—but evaluate it through a lens of experience and relevance. Give real weight only to feedback from those who understand franchising or have firsthand business ownership experience. Be respectful, but protect your decision-making process from misinformed influence.
THE ENVIOUS ASSOCIATE AMBUSH
Sometimes your ambition stirs discomfort in others. A colleague may subtly discourage you—not because the opportunity is flawed, but because they fear being left behind.
SOLUTION:
Stay focused on your goals. Consider advice only when it’s based on facts, not feelings or fears.
THE COLD FEET AMBUSH
Starting a business is frightening. That fear can quietly become the reason you say no. You justify backing out by focusing on perceived risks, rather than your real goals.
SOLUTION:
Use fear as a tool to sharpen your research and decision-making—not as an excuse to quit. Compare opportunities carefully and stay anchored to your goals.
THE 'SAMPLE OF ONE' AMBUSH
You hear one story—good or bad—and make a sweeping judgment. One failure does not mean the concept is flawed. One success doesn’t mean you’ll thrive.
SOLUTION:
Look for patterns, not anecdotes. Speak to 15–20 franchisees. Broad data beats single stories.
THE 'LOOKING IN THE WRONG PLACES' AMBUSH
Some people confuse surface-level searches with research. Googling businesses in your area or reading a few online reviews won’t tell you much about market demand, the business model, or unit economics.
SOLUTION:
Use solid data. Get the Franchise Disclosure Document from the franchisor. Talk to multiple franchisees. Consult trusted online sources like IBISWorld, Franchise Times, and Statista. Gather facts, not guesses.
PARALYSIS BY ANALYSIS AMBUSH
Too much research can become a form of avoidance. You tell yourself you're being thorough—but really, you're stalling. Research won’t eliminate all uncertainty.
SOLUTION:
Create a complete research plan and follow it. Ask yourself: Do I want to own a business? Do I fit this model? Will it help me reach my goals? If the answers are yes—move forward. If not, keep looking. If you’re unsure, do more focused research. Don’t let caution drown your vision.
Going into business is about owning not just the opportunities, but also the responsibilities. One of your most important responsibilities is to do your business search in the best possible way for you. After all is said and done, remember: if you allow others to scare you away from your dream, you’ve ambushed yourself. And instead of owning your dream, you’ll be working for someone who owned theirs.
Avoid the ambushes. Protect your vision. And pursue the dream.
About the Author
Mike Martuza is a serial entrepreneur, lecturer and author of the best selling book "The Franchise Rules." Mike has over 40 years of business ownership, business creation, franchising, consulting, coaching and management experience. He has been helping people find great "fitting" franchises for more almost two decades. Contact Mike at mikemartuza@ thefranchiseconsultingcompany.com.









